Inner Work & Self Growth ✨
The practice of becoming 1% more yourself, every day
Have you heard about the idea of improving by 1% each day? Over a year, that compounds to a mind-boggling 3,680% improvement.
It’s an impressive number. The interesting question is: What are we really improving? And what if we didn’t apply this idea to our output, but to our alignment?
This corner of my work is dedicated to the power of small changes to create more beauty, joy, ease, and lightness in our lives.
What magic and miracles could happen if you became 3,680% more of yourself? And how on Earth could you do that?
How to create the life you desire: my tested approach
While it’s hard to quantify personal alignment and authenticity (what exactly is 100% more authenticity?), my coaching process can help people make changes they desire. It has allowed me to personally help hundreds of people on six continents, and it works across cultures, industries, and countries.
The articles you find on this page are based on the same 3 principles that make my process so effective:
1. Get clear on your priorities
By virtue of living today, you most likely enjoy more freedom than you would have at any other time in history—both in your professional and in your personal life.
However, if you have an overwhelming number of options and don't know which one to choose, freedom of choice turns into a prison. True freedom comes from being clear on what you most want in life—your priorities.
2. Give yourself the green light
As a term borrowed from the film industry, giving something the greenlight refers to the stage where a project is given permission to go ahead, which moves it out of the development stage.
Greenlighting involves treating your experience of life like that movie project — something that is simultaneously okay as it is, while also being in flux and having potential for further development.
3. Commit to change
Throughout most of humanity’s existence, change signified danger. As a result, humans still have a natural preference to maintain a bad status quo (for instance, staying in a job that doesn’t work for them).
That's why motivation alone is not enough to create the life you want—change requires true commitment. It generally also includes having a support network so that you don't have to do it alone.
How the articles are organized:
To make it easier to find what you are looking for, the articles are divided into 4 categories:
- Finding clarity,
- dealing with change,
- finding confidence, and
- dealing with challenges.
I encourage you to see which ones capture your attention. Trust your intuition on what might be helpful for you today.
And now, let’s get started!
Articles about finding clarity
Articles that can help you find your true north and get clear on what you want to start or stop doing. Because clarity is the first step to change.
Finding Clarity Is Overrated: Not Knowing Can Be Liberating
I used to think that clarity was a virtue, while lack of clarity was undesirable. That unclarity should be transcended and replaced with the pristine experience of knowing, beyond a...Continue reading→
The Biggest Life Questions to Ask Yourself Are Also the Most Basic
What are the biggest life questions? Here's what I learned from a Twitter exchange between a therapist and the creator of my favorite show.Continue reading→
Are You Getting Through or Breaking Through?
There are two crucial phases in life. To live a good life, we must act in accordance with which one we’re in. Here's how they differ:Continue reading→
Impossible Goals in Life: What if “It” Is Possible for You?
Do you have seemingly impossible life goals? Here's how to tell if they are achievable and how to keep up your spirits while pursuing them.Continue reading→
How to Find Self-Love: 3 Ways to Get You Started Now
How I accidentally found the key to experiencing deeper self-love and 3 simple things you can start doing now to feel more love for yourself.Continue reading→
Starting Right Now, Here’s How to Get Back on Your Feet
If you've fallen off the horse, here's the secret to getting back on your feet right now. Includes a simple 4-step process you can follow.Continue reading→
Decision Fatigue Kills Your Productivity and Joy
By decreasing our decision fatigue, we can increase our joy and productivity. Here's how reducing choice overload made my life much better!Continue reading→
Being a Quitter Is One of the Best Ways to Approach Your Life
Sometimes, quitting is the best thing you can do for your career, your health, or your life. Find out about 2 times when it pays off to be a quitter!Continue reading→
How to Know What You Want: 5 Steps to Jumpstart Desire
Are you wondering how to know what you want? The key is to change the questions and dig deeper. Here are 5 steps that will help you do that.Continue reading→
How to Embrace Reduction in a World of Excess
In our quest for a better life, we so often focus on what to add. But what if it were just as important to let go off things? If you...Continue reading→
How to Figure Out What You Want With, Well, Lucifer
Are you unclear about your goals? Here's how to figure out what you want... even if the protagonist from "Lucifer" isn't around to help you.Continue reading→
Should You Really Trust the Hype about Habits?
Habits are not just good or positive. In this article, I'll describe the 5 main reasons why the idolization of habits is problematic.Continue reading→
Articles about dealing with change
Change is the only constant in life. In this category, you will find articles that can help you navigate it.
Here’s Why I’m Changing My Name (and What to Do If You Can’t Stand Yours)
Here's why I've recently decided to (informally) change my first name and what to do if you can't stand yours. Plus how to find fitting names for your child, cat,...Continue reading→
This is Not a Magic Pill: Your Results Will Be Proportional to Your Commitment
In coaching, as in life in general, your commitment determines your results. That's because coaching is magic but it's not a magic pill.Continue reading→
The Art of Phoenixing: How to Burn and Rise
The Art of Phoenixing (as we’ll call the mythical bird’s “burn and rise” strategy) is the real thing. It’s as real as life is. It's....Continue reading→
You Can’t Rely on Chance, So Commit to Slow Change Instead
Life can change in an instant but you can't rely on that. If you want positive change, don't wait for lightning. Instead, choose slow change.Continue reading→
You Have a Choice, You’re Just Afraid to Make the Right One
The biggest lie we tell ourselves is that we have no choice. Here's how to stop bullsh*tting yourself so you can have the life you want.Continue reading→
That Change You Fear Might Be Your Hero’s Journey
The main criteria for a hero’s journey is that the impending change freaks you out. When you hear the call, you have two options...Continue reading→
You’re (Probably) Not Thinking Small Enough
We’re often told we need to think big. What our culture’s obsession with size forgets is that small can be extremely powerful. Here's how.Continue reading→
Play the Minimalism Game and Make Space for What Matters
The Minimalism Game is a fun challenge that can help you make space for what matters most. Click here to find out how to play!Continue reading→
Words to Change Your Life: 9 Powerful Mini-Sentences for You
Are you looking for words to change your life? I've got you covered. Here are 9 powerful, short sentences you should have in your vocabulary.Continue reading→
Go to Bed Early (for You); I Promise It Will Be Amazing!
If you would like to get to bed early and find yourself tired of the same old advice that hasn't helped you in the past, read this!Continue reading→
You Are the Most Dangerous Person You Will Ever Meet
Who's the most dangerous person you'll ever meet? Look into the mirror. Find out why... and how you can become less of a menace to yourself!Continue reading→
This Is the Shortest Life Advice I Can Give You
A few words can change everything, including your life. Here's short life advice (just two powerful words) that my mother shared with me.Continue reading→
Why Fiction Is Important to Humanity and Good for You
Are you wondering why fiction is important to humanity and individuals? Find out all about the science-backed benefits of reading fiction!Continue reading→
How to Let Go of the Past so You Can Be Happy
Discover 4 free, powerful ways to let go of the past. Because not all of us can wake up on a spaceship without any of our memories.Continue reading→
Take It From Nature: This Is How to Change Things for the Better
How are we yet again in another crisis? In this article, I explain how to solve problems when nothing helps, through the concept of "fractal patterns."Continue reading→
This Is How to Quit Facebook Without Quitting Facebook
Would you like to leave Facebook but can't because you still need it for something? Here's how to quit Facebook without quitting Facebook.Continue reading→
How to Make Time for Everything With This Simple Change
Are you wondering how to make time for everything? Discover the one simple change that can help you get there!Continue reading→
We’re All Addicted to Bad News. Here’s How to Stop.
In this ridiculously long blog post, I share what I learned over half a decade about how to stop reading the news.Continue reading→
Articles about finding confidence
Find your inner confidence and can-do attitude so you can do the things you thought you couldn't do.
This (Surprisingly Simple) 4-Step Process Can Help You Overcome Your Fears
Whenever I face my fears, my life gets better. I have explored the depths of fear for years. In writing and, more importantly, in life. Here's what I've learned:Continue reading→
5 Questions from Your Car: What Driving Can Teach You About Life
Here are 5 questions that can help you determine to what extent you’re currently the driver at the wheel in your own life.Continue reading→
You Don’t Need to Go to Bravery Boot Camp to Join the Dauntless Faction
What we can (and can't) learn about bravery from Dauntless, one of the 5 factions in Veronica Roth's Divergent series.Continue reading→
The Martyr Archetype: How to Stop Sacrificing Too Much in Relationship
If you're sacrificing too much in relationship, it's time to stop being a martyr. Here are 4 steps that will help you take care of your needs!Continue reading→
The Wanderer Archetype: To Strengthen Your Relationship, Strengthen Your Self
By strengthening my self, I can strengthen my relationship. That is the lesson of the Wanderer archetype. It is only by being...Continue reading→
Do It Imperfectly (But Do It)
Are you held back by wanting to do something perfectly? If so, let me share a story with you that might inspire you to do it imperfectly!Continue reading→
11 Quotes to Help You Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable
Learning how to embrace challenges will make you more successful. Here's what you need to know to get comfortable being uncomfortable!Continue reading→
This Year, Steady Is the New Growth
Here's how to adjust your goals and expectations in the middle of a pandemic. Because steady is the new growth!Continue reading→
5 Awe-Inspiring Quotes for When You Need a Little Inspiration
All it takes to get out of a negative mindset is to focus on something that’s so beautiful it’s almost transcendental…like these 5 quotes.Continue reading→
How to Find Your Superpower and Stop It From Ruining Your Life
Good news: you have a superpower! Bad news: it comes with a great challenge. Find out how to keep your superpower from destroying your life!Continue reading→
Slay Your Dragon: This Is How to Survive a Trial by Fire
Wondering how to slay your dragon? This simple, 4-step process will help you develop your strategy... so that you can emerge victorious!Continue reading→
Articles about dealing with challenges
When the going gets tough, the tough start reading these articles...
The Antifragility Experiment: Let’s Turn Lemons Into Lemonade!
“Sometimes, life gives you a high-five. In the face. With a chair. Made out of steel. Twice.”Continue reading→
You Will Find Your Path to Freedom One Inch at a Time
When you're stuck, small steps help you find your path to freedom. Here's how and why other approaches will keep you stuck.Continue reading→
The Attention Economy Is Ruining Your Life One Click At a Time: 5 Steps to Take Back Control
When the attention economy battles for your attention, you're the one who suffers the most. Here's how to take back control in 5 steps.Continue reading→
How to Survive Success or Failure by Focusing on What You Can Control
It's been said that success destroys more people than failure. Here are 3 things that will help you thrive, both in success and in failure!Continue reading→
How to Deal With Rejection, Even if It Hurts Like Hell
Are you wondering how to deal with rejection? In this article, you'll learn the science of why rejection hurts... and what to do about it!Continue reading→
You Are Now a Better Person Than BC (Before Coronavirus)
Here's how you are a better person now than before this pandemic... and what a 2010 volcanic eruption taught me about people in a crisis.Continue reading→
How to Know You’re Taking on Too Much and How to Solve It
Are you taking on too much (TOTM)? Check your "TOTM" score, based on 6 warning signs. If your score is high, follow the advice to lower it.Continue reading→
How to Deal With Being Unemployed Psychologically
Are you experiencing negative psychological effects from your job search? Here's how to deal with being unemployed by making 6 crucial shifts.Continue reading→
The Platinum Rule: All You Need to Know in 3 Drawings
If you want to improve your relationships, use the Platinum Rule (not the Golden Rule). Here's all you need to know to get started!Continue reading→
How to Help a Friend Through a Breakup in 4 Steps
Are you dealing with someone who's heartbroken? Learn how to help a friend through a breakup, using a key principle and 4 powerful steps.Continue reading→
What Is Gaslighting and How Do You Deal With It?
All you need to know about gaslighting in one place! You'll learn what it is, where it happens, and how you can stop it with 3 powerful antidotes.Continue reading→
How to Live a Life With Little Regret
Let's talk about regret! I realized that my outlook on life was unusual when I got interviewed a couple of years ago. Now, in case you don’t know …Continue reading→
What Is It That You Owe Your Loved Ones?
My mother's heart attacks, a TV show, and the title of an ethics book showed me how we can all get what we most want. Learn the secret here!Continue reading→
How to Cope With Life in the Middle of a Pandemic
Wondering how to cope with life? Here are 3 reasons why life requires super-human strength... and why you have what it takes to deal with it!Continue reading→
Memento Mori: What Death Is Teaching Me at the End of a Decade
I spent yesterday in a daze, randomly bursting into tears from time to time. It was a heartbreaking, rude reminder of memento mori (Latin: "remember...Continue reading→
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