Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is hard.
While we tend to experience our comfort zone as nice and fluffy (albeit a bit boring), leaving it can feel like trying to steer a small boat in the middle of a storm, all while being lost in the middle of an ocean.
That, or like we're fighting a dragon who's spitting fire at us.
Is it therefore a wonder people avoid feeling uncomfortable?
Of course, there are many benefits we can gain when we embrace the discomfort and leave our comfort zone. For instance, I’m currently in the midst of a 30-day challenge where I post one full article each day. Doing this has definitely pushed me outside my comfort zone but it has also given me self-confidence, direction, and even helped me get into a state of flow.
If you’re currently feeling uncomfortable, I’ve gathered 11 encouraging quotes from highly successful people. Their advice can help you get through the experience.
First, though, let’s look at a few questions that people often have about the advice to "get comfortable being uncomfortable."
Questions about embracing discomfort:
What does “get comfortable being uncomfortable” mean?
It means that you’re getting used to being in situations that are outside your comfort zone. You might even actively pursue activities that put you outside your comfort zone.
Is being uncomfortable a good thing?
Yes, it definitely can be! Being uncomfortable is part of what’s required to grow so if people don’t experience that feeling at all, they’re probably stagnating.
At the same time, not every discomfort is a good thing. I personally think you should step outside your comfort zone in the pursuit of something you actually want, not just for the sake of being uncomfortable.
So, for instance, if you really want to be a singer in a band but feel uncomfortable about your voice, I think it’s worth it to push through that resistance. If, however, you feel uncomfortable about singing but have no desire to sing publicly, why would you put yourself through the discomfort?
Instead, find a goal that really lights you up and that’s outside your comfort zone! There are only so many hours in the day so it makes sense to choose wisely.
Who said "get comfortable being uncomfortable"?
I have heard this from many different sources.
Personally, the first time I came across the saying “get comfortable with being uncomfortable” was in a Jillian Michaels exercise video (and yes, I was feeling pretty uncomfortable by the time she said it)—but that doesn’t mean that she originated it.
For instance, BrainyQuote attributes: “Be willing to be uncomfortable. Be comfortable being uncomfortable” to Peter McWilliams.
The U.S. Navy Seals reportedly also have this as a saying.
There’s also a TED talk by Luvvie Ajayi with the title:
Quotes and advice to help you embrace discomfort:
1. Remember that you won't always feel uncomfortable about the same things because your comfort zone will expand
This quote by athlete Alex Honnold reminds you that your comfort zone isn't static:
“My comfort zone is like a little bubble around me, and I've pushed it in different directions and made it bigger and bigger until these objectives that seemed totally crazy eventually fall within the realm of the possible.”
2. Reframe what it means to be uncomfortable
With this quote, author Joe Vitale encourages you to think about "uncomfortable" in a new way:
"Uncomfortable doesn't mean bad, uncomfortable simply means you're doing something you haven't done before."
3. Have big goals and let them drive you forward through the discomfort
This quote by swimming legend Michael Phelps encourages you to have goals that stretch you:
"Uncomfortable doesn't mean bad, uncomfortable simply means you're doing something you haven't done before."
4. Know or find your why as it can get you through almost every experience
With this powerful quote, the late psychotherapist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl reminds you about the importance of finding meaning in your experience:
“Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.”
5. Practice doing uncomfortable things
This quote by the late First Lady and Human Rights Champion Eleanor Roosevelt reminds you that the more you practice doing things that are outside your comfort zone, the better you will get at embracing discomfort:
“Do one thing everyday that scares you. Those small things that make us uncomfortable help us build courage to do the work we do.”
6. See your discomfort as a necessary part of growth
With this quote, motivational speaker T. Harv Eker reminds you to see your discomfort as a sign that you're growing:
“The only time you are actually growing is when you are uncomfortable.”
7. Consider the long-term negative consequences of staying in your comfort zone
In this quote, psychotherapist Amy Morin reminds us to consider the negative consequences of avoidance:
"Choosing to avoid uncomfortable feelings offers immediate short-term relief, but avoidance can lead to long-term consequences."
8. Make your comfort zone more uncomfortable as this will make the alternative more appealing:
With this quote, the late actress and civil rights activist Ruby Dee encourages you to use the discomfort of your status quo to push through discomfort:
"God, make me so uncomfortable that I will do the very thing I fear."
9. Realize that everyone feels uncomfortable at times and that you're not alone
This quote by musician Moby reminds you that everyone around you also deals with discomfort and that it's part of our shared humanity:
"Everyone feels awkward, everyone feels uncomfortable, everyone gets older, everyone gets lonely, everyone gets sick, everyone eventually dies."
10. Use humor to make the experience lighter
This quote by musician Dolly Parton reminds us that humor can make anything a bit easier to bear:
"I'm comfortable in my own skin, no matter how far it's stretched. Ha ha."
11. Stop procrastinating and just do it now
This quote by businessmen Dave Morin reminds you to act now because uncomfortable things get harder the longer you wait:
"There are a lot of things that are uncomfortable and hard to do, and the longer you put off those things, the harder they get."
Ultimately, I think the secret to a good life is finding the right balance between comfort and discomfort.
Someone who's never uncomfortable doesn't grown, and someone who's always uncomfortable might not get to enjoy the fruits of their labor.
Of course, our natural tendency is to avoid discomfort. The quotes and advice shared above can help you lean into the discomfort so that you can have the life you most want.
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Great content!
I realize I have 2 kind of clients: those who make me love my job and those who make me better at my job.
the second group definitively makes me uncomfortable…but that’s what I need to improve and get a better coach!
and I think this is true in many situation of business, relationship, career. So thank you for all this encouraging content to help us surf the uncomfortable wave…and enjoy it 🙂
Oh wow, Arnaud, thanks for sharing this! That’s such a good way of thinking about it and I agree that it’s true in so many different areas. Thanks for sharing your own experience about surfing the uncomfortable wave… and coming out new and improved on the other side.
Great collection of wise thoughts 👍
I don’t like this so common “leave your comfort zone” slogan. I think we can grow and achieve important goals while using our strength, which are kind of the part of our “comfort zone”. So I prefer “expand your comfort zone” call to action. And first quote by Alex Honnold is about it, awesome!
Thank you, Bere!
Ooh, thanks for mentioning this. Yes, I see your point about how it’s much better to expand our comfort zone than to leave it. Thanks for your comment, Dmytro!